The more I ask the more they refuse

15. The more I ask, the more my child refuses.

When everyday requests start wars in your house, it is exhausting and it feels aimed squarely at you. This booklet explains why, for some children, a demand registers as a threat to their autonomy and triggers a nervous system response rather than a decision.

It covers why charts and consequences make things worse, and offers a calmer way of asking that keeps your expectations without starting the fight.