Their sexual orientation. Full stop. Straight. Gay. Bi. Unidentified. Any and all of them. Socially, we use orientation to make navigating compatibility feel less like guesswork. But nervous-system honesty usually doesn’t live there. Survival perfo...

We’re living in the consequences of delayed honesty. This human experience is, by default, delayed. Even the most basic reference point we use for “now” is already behind us. When the sun rises on any part of the globe, we’re seeing it roughly eigh...

*There will be no bell hooks slander in this reflection* bell hooks once wrote, “Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” This line is often qu...

Sex was designed to be a fun exploration until the survival mind turned it into a power play performance. Most people don’t connect with themselves through sex. They experience the heightened urgency of avoiding themselves through it. That urgency ...

I needed to get out of the house today—out of the neighborhood and out of the repetition. But these days, I don’t leave unless one of my containers is being filled. In this season of my life, I’ve been nurturing three delicate containers: financial...

We don’t talk enough about what happens after awakening. Everyone loves the glow-up story (the “dark night”, the synchronicities, the breakthrough, the healing), but then what? What do we do once the light is on, once we can see distortion everywhe...

I’m gonna take my time with this message. I talk about paradoxes a lot here. A paradox is when multiple things are true at the same time. But it’s hard to embrace paradox when, on the surface, the connections we make with people look like they only...

We’ve been trained to talk about pressure after it passes. To clean up our insights, package them, and call it growth. But I don’t do that anymore. I’m writing this from the middle of the wave, not because it’s over, but because I’ve trained my sur...

For as long as I can remember, I’ve battled a deep frustration with being overlooked, undervalued, and underappreciated. I craved visibility, yet in the same breath, there was a subconscious fear around it. No matter how much I consciously wanted t...

Fear is something we all know intimately. It’s a physical, conditional state, something we can feel in our bodies. But when we think of fear, we often associate it with the absence of something: safety, peace, or even love. Here’s the thing, though...