If you've read the piece on this blog about the three parts of the mind, you may already be familiar with the idea that our mind has different layers.
The conscious mind reacts to what it sees. The subconscious takes in what we repeatedly feed it and, in its own way, begins to shape our experience around those beliefs. And then there is the superconscious — that quieter part of us that seems to see beyond the immediate moment. The part that doesn't react to appearances because, perhaps, it can see something we cannot yet see.
Since writing that piece, I've found myself returning to one question:
How do we actually get there?
Not in theory.
Not as another beautiful idea we read about and then forget.
But in real life.
How do we stop reacting to everything in front of us and begin listening to something deeper within us?
I've thought about this a lot.
And I don't think we can simply think our way into it.
I used to believe that if I could find the right mindset, the right affirmation, or the perfect five-minute morning routine, I could somehow think myself into a higher state.
But the more I've experienced, the less tidy it seems to be.
And maybe that's okay.
Because real inner work is rarely tidy.
The Real Work Happens Before the Thinking
Before we can hear something quieter within us, we often have to become aware of everything that's already making noise.
Years of programming.
Conditioning we absorbed before we were even old enough to question it.
Beliefs we inherited from our parents, teachers, culture, religion, relationships, and experiences.
The heartbreaks that changed the way we see ourselves.
The moments when we learned that it was safer to stay quiet, stay small, or become whatever other people needed us to be.
And then there are the reactions that happen almost automatically — before we've even had a chance to think.
I don't think we can simply meditate those things away in one morning or one afternoon.
They were built slowly.
Perhaps they also need to be understood and released slowly.
Layer by layer.
And maybe that's where the work really begins.
Not with trying to raise our vibration.
But with something much simpler:
becoming aware.
Noticing.
Watching ourselves when a familiar pattern appears instead of immediately becoming the pattern.
Catching ourselves in the middle of a reaction and quietly thinking,
Oh. There it is again.
That little moment of awareness may seem insignificant, but I think it matters.
Because for a moment, there is space.
You are no longer completely inside the reaction.
You are witnessing it.
And perhaps that space is where something deeper can finally begin to come through.
Why We Sometimes Avoid This Part
There is something else I've come to understand.
Not everyone is ready to look inward at the same time.
And I don't think that makes anyone less evolved, less spiritual, or somehow behind.
Sometimes we simply aren't ready.
Because creating that inner space can mean looking at things we've spent years avoiding.
Old wounds.
Old fears.
The stories we've carried about why we can't have what we want.
The parts of ourselves we learned to hide.
The moments when something inside us closed because staying open hurt too much.
It's uncomfortable.
Sometimes it can bring up grief we didn't even realize we were still carrying.
So naturally, we look for something easier.
We repeat another affirmation.
We try to think positively.
We tell ourselves everything is fine.
We try to move into a higher vibration before we've actually allowed ourselves to feel what is happening underneath.
And I don't think positivity itself is the problem.
There is nothing wrong with choosing hopeful thoughts.
But sometimes I wonder if we're trying to put beautiful words over something that is quietly asking to be felt first.
You can't create peace by pretending the noise isn't there!
Sometimes you have to listen to the noise.
Understand where it came from.
And gently allow it to become quieter.
Clearing Space, Not Forcing Positivity
This is probably one of the biggest shifts in how I see all of this now.
Maybe the goal was never to force positive thinking on top of everything unresolved underneath us.
Maybe the goal is simply to clear enough space for something quieter and truer to be heard.
Think about being in a noisy room.
Someone could be speaking softly right beside you, but if everyone else is talking at the same time, you may not hear them.
It doesn't mean they stopped speaking.
There is simply too much noise.
I sometimes think the superconscious may be like that.
Maybe it isn't far away.
Maybe it isn't silent.
Maybe we've simply become so accustomed to the noise inside us that we don't notice how much it drowns everything else out.
The old fears.
The old programming.
The constant analysing.
The need to control what happens next.
The reactions that happen before we've even had time to ask ourselves what we actually feel.
So perhaps the practice isn't really about reaching upward.
Maybe it's about becoming quiet enough within.
Clearing a little space.
Turning the volume down.
And allowing ourselves to hear what may have been there all along.
What This Can Actually Look Like
I don't think this needs to become another self-improvement project.
We already have enough of those.
For me, it can be much simpler.
Notice before you fix.
Instead of immediately asking, How do I stop feeling this? try sitting with it for a moment. What am I actually feeling? Where do I feel it in my body? What might have triggered it?
I personally love putting these things into my journal because sometimes I don't understand what I'm feeling until I see the words in front of me.
Let stillness be uncomfortable.
A few quiet minutes without your phone, without music, without a podcast telling you what to think. Just you and whatever happens to come up.
Sometimes nothing happens.
Sometimes everything happens.
Both are okay.
Become curious about your reactions.
When something triggers you almost instantly, instead of judging yourself for it, you might gently ask, Why did this affect me so deeply? Where have I felt this before?
Not to blame yourself.
Not to analyse yourself endlessly.
Just to understand yourself a little more.
Give yourself permission to go slowly.
This isn't something you have to figure out in a weekend.
The beliefs and patterns we've carried may have taken years to form.
Perhaps we don't need to rush the process of releasing them either.
Maybe slow is not failure.
Maybe slow is simply how something real unfolds.
Maybe It Was Never Far Away
This is the thought I keep coming back to.
What if the superconscious was never actually far away?
What if that quieter knowing has always been there?
Perhaps we simply couldn't hear it beneath everything else.
The fear.
The expectations.
The old stories.
The constant need to understand.
The endless noise of the mind.
And if that is true, then maybe this journey isn't about becoming someone new.
Maybe it isn't about forcing ourselves into a higher version of who we are.
Maybe it's about coming back to ourselves.
Removing, little by little, what has been covering the quiet place underneath.
Making enough room to listen.
And perhaps, when we finally become quiet enough, we realize that the guidance we were searching for wasn't somewhere outside of us after all.
Maybe it was there the whole time.
Quietly waiting for us to become still enough to hear it.
♡𓂃adetriyani
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