Scan For the Positive in Relationships

The Observer Effect of Attention: A Quantum Reframe

Whatever we look for, we find.

Quantum physics tells us that observation changes the phenomenon being observed — the observer effect. What we attend to collapses the wave of infinite possibilities into a single outcome.

Constant scanning for the negative is, in essence, collapsing reality into the least nourishing version of it. It might be wired in, so that means we need extra practice.

Let’s look at the case and how we walked through it and see what you can do differently, learning from his example.

When I look for the positive, I find it. When I look for the negative, I find it. Can I acknowledge the negative and then dwell in the positive? I feel better when I do.

We worked through this together, so that he could change his mental habit before doing this with his wife.

They went through this together with him having a head start and buy-in.

Includes a 7 day workbook to train yourself to look for the positives.

(39 pages)