Conflict About the Process of Arguing

My suggestion is that when you have conflict, you have a process or system that works for you. Process is funny if no one owns the process. What happens when we have a process and don’t follow it? Throw a flag and regroup.

In many couples therapy approaches (like Gottman, EFT, or Terry Real’s relational life work), this is sometimes called process-checking or calling a time-out on the interactional pattern.

Part 2 is getting some examples for talker/listener- the foundation we use for conflict in conversations. Let's look at a real life example and some wording that might help you. Don't just use this wording, try it out and see if it helps you look more deeply at your own part in the relationship.