(3 minute read) A trauma bond is not the same as love. It may feel like love. It may feel urgent, consuming, painful, hopeful, addictive, and impossible to explain. But underneath, a trauma bond is often a survival attachment. I In narcissistic rela...

(3 minute read) The internet likes certainty. It likes neat explanations, clear villains, and tidy endings. Spend enough time online and you might begin to believe that certain kinds of people are entirely one thing or entirely another. The narcissi...

(3 minute read) Few words provoke as much discussion in therapy as the word narcissist. For some survivors, hearing the term for the first time is profoundly validating. It can explain years of confusion, self-doubt, circular arguments, shifting goa...

(A 4 minute read) This article is written for people recovering from narcissistic, coercive, or emotionally confusing relationships who continue to feel pulled back long after the relationship has ended. How attachment, co-dependency and trauma bond...

One of the most painful questions survivors of abuse ask themselves is: “Why do I keep having the same conversation?” They explain. They clarify. They provide examples. They answer objections. They correct misunderstandings. Yet somehow they find th...

Skim read: 3–4 minutes Thoughtful read: 5–7 minutes Sometimes we find ourselves responding to a version of reality that is no longer true. A friend may be responding to a version of us that exists in their mind rather than the person standing in fro...

(4 minute read) When you find yourself in an argument with a narcissist - do you feel understood or heard? What happens when explanation becomes survival - and why thoughtful people become tied in knots. Have you spent years analysing them? Have you...