Partner or Companion: Define, Decide and Align Your Relationship
One of the most common fights within the first year or so of a relationship. You think you are clear and then something happens.
In these 123 pages, I give real life examples from my own life and from couples in my practice, mixing and matching in a composite.
Let’s be aligned with whatever level of relationship we truly want.
If we are companions, let’s define terms and be companions, consciously and intentionally. Let’s not call ourselves companions, though if we do not line up with companion behavior or words, same for partners. Are we a hybrid, mostly companions but occasionally partners? Are we not putting in the work but we want the rewards of partners?
What is included?
1. Questionnaire, definitions and challenges to the couple to be in alignment.
2. Rebuilding After a Rupture /Neglect: From Potential to Partnership using Game Theory, Behavioral Economics, Quantum Physics and other fields of study
3. What Happened That We Chose Busyness Over Building?
4. Attachment repatterning- When an anxious-avoidant pair has been circling each other, they’ve already built a pattern that protects both partners from fear but also blocks nourishment. Healing it isn’t quick; it means designing new experiences of safety instead of repeating old arguments about it.
5. Blind Spots That Undermine Healing
6. Structure versus Spontaneity
7. When the Work Feels One-Sided
8. Fields of Study That Deepen a Relationship Retrospective
9. Structured Inventory Using These Lenses
10. Self-Confrontation & Blind-Spot Inquiry (Still doing the inventory from multiple perspectives).
11. We Are Not Aligned (how to get back into alignment and into synch)
12. What “Efforting for Balance” Often Looks Like (With Real-World Examples to help you distinguish being from bidding) Many parts have obscure fields of study examples that help you realize it is all around you.
13. Joy and how we block it
14. Avoidance – are we talking about the things we need to? Is it going back to me chasing you?
15. Boundary Clarity: Companion vs. Romantic Partner
Now, evaluate if you are drifting apart- what do you do about that? Let's walk through a 7 day process that helps you face that and move into partnership.
